Recently, a suicide letter that a young person left to his family before he died forever has made many people ponder.
Perhaps this young person has felt “abandoned” in his own family. It seems that the care and protection of your parents alone is not enough for you. You may also notice that you have tried to talk and share with your loved ones, but have not been successful.
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It is necessary to study with young people to know the problems of youth and help them to complete life happily |
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It is impossible to say whose fault or where, but we can recognize how important family dialogue is in educating, accompanying and protecting young people. In this respect, Professor Karol Wojtyla has particularly interesting shares.
We always need dialogue for a real process of human growth. However, the experience of everyday life often makes us say: dialogue – it’s exhausting!
Dialogue is tiring even within the family, between children and parents. Fatigue is caused by other mental illnesses, lack of time, and unresolved personal stressors. Tired because sometimes parents cannot or do not know how to listen and sympathize with their children, and perhaps the children themselves do not know how to listen and sympathize with their parents.
In modern families, in a life heavily influenced by today’s consumer society, it seems that the fatigue is getting heavier and heavier, making it impossible to talk to each other anymore.
Many parents, even though they provide their children with adequate, even excess material needs, are still the most “absent” for their children.
There are other parents who leave their families in search of new experiences. A young man, when referring to the parable of the prodigal son (described very vividly by the painter Rembrandt in the painting The Prodigal Son), said: “In my family, it is not the son who has left, but the father who has left us”.
Dialogue outside the family is also fraught with difficulties, but not the least. In the school, work, and village environments, there are so many misunderstandings, so many prejudices! The result is often cold indifference, loneliness, and bitter separation. Many young people are dying inside because of being abandoned.
Human abandonment is one of the deepest wounds of our time. It is necessary to think of young people, but also to think of parents, many parents are also abandoned. The most bitter is when abandoned right in the family, among loved ones, this is a situation that makes many people go to despair, even looking for hope by… committing suicide. Perhaps a new compromise between generations in the family is urgently needed.
The content of educational programs of most countries in the world, especially at the first levels of schooling, is always “comprehensive reading – writing fluently”. Reading is to understand what others want to tell you. Writing is sharing what I know, I need, so that others understand me. The first educational task is to learn how to dialogue.
But how can the obstacles be overcome and the dialogue resumed? On what values can a new relationship and understanding be built?
The first presupposition of a real dialogue is this: the members must consciously unite with each other to seek all that is true, good, and true for each person. That is, the dialogue first requires each person to be open and receptive to the other side by sincerely listening to their problems and arguments in order to understand, not judge.
Dialogue also requires each person to accept the difference and uniqueness of the other, even though he is not forced to give up what he knows to be true and right. In particular, dialogue entails finding what is common to people, even when there are tensions, antagonisms and disputes.
Therefore, the attitude to have in dialogue is: to consider each person as his or her neighbor in order to share the responsibility for truth and justice. Dialogue needs to take place first of all on the basis of the “law of love”.
The greatness of “dialogue” is the recognition of the inalienable dignity of the human person. It is based on respect for human life and requires “a little bit of risk” about human sociability, about the individual aspirations that everyone has, even the babies we think we “haven’t seen yet.” know what to think”. The meeting of hearts is the necessary beginning that any successful dialogue must have.
Yet, why do so many families lack dialogue or fail? Perhaps because parents were unable to understand, could not be patient, could not listen, could not understand their children. It is necessary to learn with young people to know the problems of youth and to help them to complete life happily, not to end life in guilt and depression.