Childish face, laughter and childish voice, the “alcohol” daughter of Thanh Lam and Quoc Trung seems… has nothing to do with her age of 27 and her marriage for more than 2 years. That said, Thanh Lam is: “Despite being the son of two famous artists, Xiu (the intimate name of Thien Thanh – PV) has never let himself be under that pressure, possibly due to his carefree nature. Because of that, I always live a very simple and pure life, not falling into the whirlpool of showbiz, as well as worrying about food and money…”
But listen, because of that “innocent” nature, how many times have you made your parents “heartbeat” when choosing a lover?
It was because at that time I was only “in love with drafts”, but had not determined anything, nor set any standards, I loved it when I was happy. But because my father is always worried about me… just like my mother, I will always love instinctively, passionately, wholeheartedly, and sacrifice for people with all my heart. Dad even gave me a whole meal… a slap when I had to rush out from Saigon and look for me all night because I was worried that I fell in love with the wrong one. Even my mother worries about it. And so both my mother and father tried their best to advise me not to be foolish enough to love myself too much, then not everyone knows how to appreciate me; Usually when something is too much, people won’t know it’s precious…
And as a result, I got on the bus at the age of 25, instead of… 18, like my mother?
I have the other thing that my mother does everything slowly, never in a hurry. I think, getting married early is also a big disadvantage for my mother. Youth should be able to fly and dance, but here she has a baby soon (Thanh Lam’s first daughter with her first husband – PV), so it’s like being forced to grow up early. (The Meritorious Artist Thanh Huong – Thanh Lam’s mother sitting nearby commented: “Oh that case, Mr. Thuan Yen was sick for half a year because he regretted it, he has talent…!” – PV). My mother is always loved by the “disability” of being in love for the first time, she believes that love is beautiful every time… I am like my mother in that point, but not as calm as my father. Sometimes I want to have a cool head like my father’s, but sometimes my father is too cold, too quiet, and sad.
The “wine” daughter of a famous artist couple, is also the “born child” of a large family of famous names (grandfather is People’s Artist Trung Kien, maternal grandfather is musician Thuan Yen. – Reporter) …, but there are quite simple options: teaching music (in the center) and a husband of the same profession, more or less secretive?
Both me and my husband have the same point: I don’t like going to acting by teaching, especially teaching children, because I always feel young and fresh. When I went to teach, there was no applause, but the feeling of peace was much more peaceful. Because for me, clapping is very stressful. I also have no need to find myself a husband who “has a number, has a mother”, as long as there is lice and a suitable conversation. The other ones don’t do anything, the important thing is how people treat you and your family. My husband was originally a student of my grandfather, he loved my grandfather terribly, he was out of work and he called back, saying that he needed to rush home immediately, sometimes just to… turn on the television for him. . My parents love him too. Because he is so warm and sincere. Before, I love any brother, my grandma also said: Whoever you love, bring me here, she cooks for me and then she watches for me. After watching, she said: According to her, this guy can’t, but if you like it… just love it. She also said that if you love a celebrity, you will have a lot of money, you have to determine if you can stand the market, then love… That’s all, she successfully “breaks” two cases in a row. (But who is like her mother, just make a fuss! – Mrs. Huong contributed). But when it came to this guy, she was the first unlucky person to marry, she said: This guy doesn’t have to think.
And it’s true that with him, I have nothing to think about. I am very secure. For me, that’s enough. In my opinion, a peaceful woman is a happy woman.
The verb “sacrifice” in your family is conjugated in different ways, across three generations: Mother – mother – daughter?
In grandparents, it is an effort to nurture the family, so that husband and children can be wholeheartedly devoted to creativity. And your mother died in a different way, in a different situation. When my parents separated, my mother agreed to let us live with our grandparents and dad, so that the two sisters would not have to be separated and enjoy the best possible upbringing because her acting career would be difficult. close enough. My mother even had to accept the scandal because not everyone understood her sacrifice, and my mother was not used to explaining. As for me, the sacrifice I can make is to step back and let my husband thrive, because he’s better than me.
Ever misunderstood and angry at your mother?
Misunderstanding is not. Because even though our parents divorced, we are still not too deprived of our mother’s care, not to the point of disappointment. Usually on weekends, mom picks us up, and during the week, we stay with dad to go to school. Or sometimes my mother came over and slept again, actually waiting for the children to sleep before she came back because my brother was very attached to his mother, he loved her very much… But it wasn’t until later that I heard my mother’s explanation. Only then did I fully understand my mother’s sacrifice.
Then, when I couldn’t keep my first child, when I saw my mother crying because she loved me and loved me (even my father cried), I once again understood the personal hardships of women. After going through it, I feel sorry for my grandmother, for my mother, in the past, I was still in conditions not as good as mine… It’s true as people say “preparing the grave”. That painful bearing, is the reason any mother can be willing to sacrifice for her child, as long as they have a chance.
How did you and your mother help you through that pain?
Mother comforted him: Maybe because of the end of the charm, so I left early to be reincarnated early. As for my grandmother, she still says that luckily, her grandson is not hurt, I am still here with her, but I have a home, I can’t even keep my mother and children. But it took more than half a year for me to gradually recover. And now that I’m ready to be a mother for the second time, I look forward to it…
When will the three women in your house look the most feminine?
I also don’t know when I look the most feminine, because I don’t like flower arrangements and I’m not as good at cooking as Mom. My father also advised me to sometimes buy flowers to arrange for her to be feminine, and try to learn from her mother how to cook. I think I’m not very feminine because since I was a kid, I lived with my father, if I lived with my mother, I would be richer and more feminine.
My mother cooks well, she really put her soul into the dishes. But there are two times when I shouldn’t stand near my mother, that’s when I’m about to sing and prepare to cook, because at that time, my mother’s concentration is terrible, “feminism” is terrible, so I keep going in and out and distracting my eyes. is very easy to get angry. I think the most feminine mother is probably when she finishes cooking and lovingly watches everyone enjoy her meal. As for her, she was the most feminine when she watched my mother perform, because at that time she was very laid-back, attentive, different from usual because she belonged to a strong “school”, eating waves and waves…
What about “feminism”?
Although wholeheartedly sacrificed for her husband and children and nurtured the family, on the one hand, grandparents always kept a decisive voice in the family (my mother still sometimes consults her).
And mother’s feminism is that she is always in control of her life and can do what she likes. I’m different, I don’t ask her, ask her mother. I just asked my husband, because he’s the person I find easiest to talk to. I don’t need feminism, I just need peace of mind.