“Phu Quang’s will is a compensation for me”

Avatar’s picturea chReminds me of a familiar song in “I’m sorryHanoi night”: “Only a vast lake mirror remains, reflecting on the red-leaved eagle trees“. A memorym ryIs there between father and son?ng?

Because I found it close to my mood and his at that time. It was about the last days of his life, about 1-2 weeks before his death. Dad and I both knew in our hearts that he was going, and this time there was no way to stop him…

I used to beoohi, onlyyou alreadyoohtlindifferent to his father’s music, until his death. Is it because you used to be angry with him?ng?

No, not at all. Maybe I’m lucky that my parents… I got divorced early, when I was only 1 year old, so I didn’t have time to understand what it would be like to live with my father, I didn’t have that concept. But somehow, he is still present in my life, in my personality, and in what he left behind…

I have grown up in the irresponsible care of my mother and used to not having a father in the house. Instead, it will be every weekend, being picked up by dad to go out. My parents broke up in 1976, but it wasn’t until 1985 that my dad moved to Saigon, 4 years later, I packed up and went to Russia to study piano at the age of 14. At least during the first 10 years of my life. When I was a teenager, I also had a father with countless weekends like that.

The first piano I had was my father who took the trouble to bring it from Saigon to me, when Saigon was just liberated and I wasn’t born yet. At that time, I saw that buying a piano was more expensive than buying a house, but my parents were determined to buy it for me so that I could learn it 7 years later. My parents used to believe in happiness, when there was an extra guitar and a daughter in the house.

I don’t hate my father, for this, perhaps first of all, I need to thank my mother. Although I know that my mother once hated my father a bit (and it took me a long time to find out), but all these years, she always told me that my parents broke up just because they weren’t compatible, so I shouldn’t continue. continue to live together, but no one is to blame. Mom never badmouthed Dad. And she stopped walking just because she was afraid of affecting her, even though she used to be a beautiful, talented ballerina, specializing in soloist, with many followers…

“It’s only been… but it’s been a lifetime” – Music night commemorating a year of musician Phu Quang’s death (December 8 at the Hanoi Opera House) will give a panorama of Phu Quang’s music for the first time. sockigThere are many instrumental works, besides the familiar composition is the song. Being an artist piano, musicWhat do you think about this little-known composition of Phu Quang?

Dad was originally a lover of classical music, but unfortunately, he did not spend a lot of time and effort in this field. Part of it must be because of his living life, when he was young, he cherished many plans to write symphonic music, but after entering Ho Chi Minh City, orders to write soundtracks, then songs came out. Life brought him more work, so he gradually lost sight of his original goal. Later, in the last years of his life, he wanted to complete all the unfinished concerns of his youth, but his health deteriorated so quickly that he could not do it in the end. Perhaps he did not have a deep affinity with symphonic music.

I think I’m startingu hiDaddy since when?o? OLDI’m sorry I missed an opportunity to understand, through your musicng?

To understand dad, you don’t need music. Music was his understanding, not who he was, perhaps only partially. The person he was outside did not suffer so much. Dad in real life is very straightforward, not “metaphorically” like in music, or he is like me, what is tormented and painful will often be kept in the heart, very rarely expressed in words.

I understand my father, sometimes it only takes a few visits to buy books with him. He is a person who is very willing to “load”, he has a large bookcase in his house, he goes to the bookstore every time he has a new book, he will return it, regardless of whether it is good or bad. Or he has a kind of “filter” with his very sensitive senses, like the way he pulls out a beautiful verse to set music.

I think I understand my father because we are similar in that sensitivity. Ever since I was a child, every time my father let me go to see my father’s friends, I knew who the father had feelings for, who had feelings for him, and what they pampered me for. Dad knows I don’t talk much, but he’s always the one who understands me the most and he usually talks the most.

What do you think when you’re inside?travelA very short essay written by my father, but twice mentioned the word “no dispute”.pghe lost his unityt”? That must be the heart of a man who has 3 boats and 3 childrena tickleother parents?

Yeah, since we’re still half-brothers anyway, not to mention that in general, the inheritance right in me is usually for the son to decide, so it really doesn’t seem right when it comes to reason. Maybe that’s why my father was a little insecure, so he had to be careful.

However, my father’s decision was suitable for the situation and everyone from my friends, relatives, family to my brothers agreed and found it to be the most reasonable, so there has been no disagreement so far. I myself do not want to hold this responsibility, but in the immediate future, it is important to collect and systemize the entire legacy he left behind, put it into operation methodically, and continue to maintain stable development. decided and hope soon that my brother will be strong enough so that I can confidently hand over this management right.

He had a table in front of himI onlyabout this decisionng? OnlyWere you surprised that you were the chosen one?n?

The will was made in November 2019, more than 2 years before his death. He made it when he was sober and showed it to me first and then gave it to me to keep, so I wasn’t surprised. In order to have a successful career, he has put a lot of effort into his career, plus a rough love life, so the “career” of taking care of his children is somewhat lax. In many conversations with me later, I feel that he also has torment, he often says “Daddy takes care of this and that”. He was most worried about his sister, because she had to take care of her two young children with one arm and take care of her seriously ill mother with dialysis twice a week. After my father passed away, I happened to come across a few lines of my father’s diaries, which he hastily jotted down behind the sheet of music, which are fragmented, but throughout, a sad mood that he almost always felt. never told anyone or in music.

With this will, I understand that the father partly wants to compensate for his children, hoping that his musical legacy will be a “save” for his children and grandchildren…

Ever, in the gravefirstãsome inner silence, which my fatheroohi’m sorryI onlyare you?a?

(Shook his head). Or, I apologize the way I do. My father once confided to me that, both times of divorce, he felt sorry for his children, so he often went empty-handed and left all his assets (sounds big, but in fact, his property is actually quite expensive). just a house in which to live), to partially make up for the shortfall. About my mother, my father once explained to me that my mother and I are very good, but also a bit strict and strict with me, somewhat like that, and also with my mother. This is what I understand, and I believe so. Granted, there is a third person, and I also love my mother very much, but on the one hand, I am also a very rational person, I admit that my mother is really a bit strict. Usually, when people give wholeheartedly, they also often have absolute demands on love, and expect a lot from it. Everyone has their own ego, and the mother’s way of loving, maybe it’s not very realistic.

So how?olà “love realistically”? OLDomg ““dominant gene” here?ng?

I think I have received from my mother the way of education, but also from my father the liberal, somewhat “rebellious” personality when needed. Those two things add up and make me who I am, helping me solve some of the difficult problems in marriage.

That decision, I think, must be my father’s genes. My story and Duy, my father, on the contrary, supported me from beginning to end. Dad said, in married life, it’s important to understand and sympathize with each other, not age.

Standing between two famous men (husband and father), where is Trinh Huu’s career?ng? OnlyWould you be upset if you were told that your careera girlPhu Quang’s love is a bit fuzzyt?

It’s because I’m next to those two men that I think that’s more than enough, I don’t want to “crunch” any more. However, I just don’t want to be famous, but in terms of work capacity, I won’t be inferior! I see training as my strong point, I love it and it’s suitable for balancing family life.

Looking at the graph of your father’s married life, have you ever been obsessed with the risk of breaking up?? HThank you 6 year old husbandi, lI’m a personI onlyvery talented and verytdeh… “peach blossom”, and during more than 10 years of waiting for the happiness of being a mother, have you ever fallen into guilt and worry worried about the fragility of the marriage papern?

There was a time when it felt like our marriage seemed to be on the edge of the cliff, with no way out. There was also a time to talk about it, or try to separate for a while, see if it was better. But I personally do not support separation. If the cup is dissolved, that’s for sure. Must try to ignore and overcome, if not, then you should separate. Will try my best to keep, still keep it or not, it may still be due to fate.

When coming to Duy, I determined that Duy was handsome, peachy, Duy was like that, and I accepted all of that, like having to choose a combo with “both lean and fat”, not Duy’s request is that when it belongs to him, he will not have those things anymore.

I think, in life as well as in marriage, there should be agreements anyway, written or unwritten. It wouldn’t be good, if only to yield. Giving in, wanting to have, must also be in an agreement. This one I give, the other they give. If the agreement is smooth, everything will follow smoothly and smoothly.

On the first day in the house there was the sound of a baby, and being hugged andola soul be small, feeling ofa chhow are you?o?

I can only use the word “no words to describe”. The picture of life during the past 7 years has suddenly become much more colorful, our thinking is also more liberated.

My father is also very happy for me. But before that, Dad was absolutely not impatient. Because I always think, in life, there are things that can’t be done with impatience.

Also because he was not impatient, he was almost unprepared for his departure…